How To Create A Tribe + Change Your World... In Four Simple Steps.

Of course I know how talented you are, how many people you know and that you don’t need anyone, ever. Except, you do. We all do.

I'm a firm believer in making your own way in this world. When you put in the effort, you can create anything. No question. 

But it does take effort and you (alone) have to do whatever it takes to create the life you hope for.

This dogged determination is a feat in itself because ultimately, no one else can do the work for you.

But having people who believe in your dreams, love you even when you aren’t kind, recommend you for jobs that you don’t feel qualified for and sacrifice sleep to proofread your work; those are the ones who elevate us from “pushing” and “struggling” to making sh*t happen.

These are the ones we need to thrive because our people don’t allow us to give up. They push us to keep going when we’re at our worst. They don’t take “I can’t” for an answer but instead, they give you a doughnut and let you cry it out. Then they quickly tell you to "stop the bullshit and keep moving forward because you’ve got this.” I’m honored to have these people in my life.  

 

Finding our people makes all the difference. It doesn't matter where in that process you are and how many people you have. I have friends that I’ve had since I was 5 years old and others that I met a month ago but they’ve each impacted me in ways that changed who I am as a woman, a friend, a colleague and as an entrepreneur.

In general, people have become increasingly disconnected from each other.  We often choose our phones, Facebook + Insta-anything, over real face-to- face communication.  But what I’m certain of is this: my personal and professional friendships are the one thing that keep me sane when I’ve looked at a computer screen too long, felt rejected and/or alone in the world, for whatever reason. These relationships are my bedrock of normalcy and “grounded-ness.” They remind me that the world is an amazing place and that I'm lucky to live the extraordinary life that I have.  I want each of you reading this post to have that support too.

Below are 4 ways to create your own kick-ass tribe: 

1. Be clear about your intention- Whom do you want to have in your life and why? Do you want real-life friends, creative associates or badass collaborators? YES, someone can be all three but that takes time and organic growth. Once you know whom you want, ask yourself WHY you want it. This clarity makes it a lot easier for the universe to support you in bringing the right folks your way. THEN, ASK! Share your intention with others.

2. Join the on-line conversation- Become a go-to person in a trusted Facebook group.  When someone says that thing that connects to you; talk to them. Start a conversation, and support them. Respond when someone comments on your social media, rather than ignoring (and of course, you may not be able to do this ALL the time, but do the best you can, as often as you can.) Talk back. Take steps in building authentic on-line relations that can grow into off-line collaborators and friends. I’ve met so many of my IRL tribe through my Instagram account.

3. Invite your own mastermind// crew- This takes vulnerability. Reach out to folks who share your values. You may know them from your co-work space, the Internet (the social in social media,) your local yoga studio or church group.  ASK them if they’d be interested in meeting monthly to chat about “X” topic of importance.  You may be surprised at how many other folks are just as eager for connection, too.

4. Once you find your tribe, support them: Buy what they are selling. Tell all your friends about them. Support what they do, financially and emotionally. Help them grow and thrive. Do this without expecting anything in return but know that the karma will be passed on a thousand fold.

Know this: Everyone will NOT become a part of your tribe. Some people may not even like you or your work. And that’s ok. Focus your time and energy on the ones that DO.

You are all a part of my tribe. I take that very seriously and I’m honored to know you. In fact, I’d love to know more about you. 

Tell me: Who are your people?  How have they impacted you? I'd love to hear your stories.   Comment below. I look forward to reading your comments and responding back. (Learned from tip #2 above.) 

And when you're done commenting, pick up the  phone and call your tribe, mentors, mastermind group and/or family. Thank them for your successes and wins because you wouldn’t be where you are today without them.

This post is in honor of my people, the ones who I may not thank daily but have impacted my life in indescribable ways. Know that if you’re reading this, you’re one of them, truly. Thank you.